Name/Surname change

[alexm]

Hello,
I'm non-EU citizen and live in the Netherlands more than a year ago with a residence permit (work).
Recently I got my expert statement from gender team. So I'm allowed to change gender and name in BRP now.

I found that the civil registry office in The Hague requests legalized copy of parents marriage certificate according to this info:
https://www.denhaag.nl/nl/akten-en-verk ... uitenland/

I'm not sure I'll able to get this copy, cause issuing it at the embassy requires a letter of attorney from my parents. Unfortunately they are never approve my gender change.
But I got their names stated in my legalized birth certificate. Will it be sufficient for the application for BRP change?

Also I was informed by my gender psychiatrist that municipality can only change the fist name with a gender marker, not the surname/family name. And I should go to the court and pay for a lawyer if I want to change them both.
Here I should mention that I want to keep my name Alex (which is a neutral) with a surname, but they are both spelled in a full form with grammatical gender form which is should be changed together with a gender marker (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Surname_inflection).
So it will be from Alexander to Alexandra, and similar for the surname.
Does it considered as a significant change that requires Justice approval? How expensive it can be to hire an lawyer and paying the municipality fees?

Another concern that gender change is banned in my home country.
With new Dutch ID and travel document I may be detained on the border and even convicted of identity fraud. Not sure about the last one but the living in my former country taught me to think about such absurd but influencing consequences.

I'm really confused now about changing BRP at all.

[Irene_de_Vreede]

I don't know all the details, but the fact that you want to change your surname (with logic arguments) and that the country you were born in doesn't recognise transgender people will make it very difficult from my point of view.

[Laura2021]

Maybe a strange question, are not able to get a legalized copy of your parents marriage certificate in your country of origin without mentioning the purpose of gender change? Maybe you can find out if there are other reasons why you would need such a document here and get it for that purpose...

As far as I can understand from the link above that your parents marriage certificate does not require a mentioning of the purpose of gender change. It is just a legalized copy, that is all. But it doesn't hurt to ask "de gemeente Den Haag".
I know, it would require a visit to your country of origin with your original passport if you still have it, so do not get stuck there.

[Camilla]

I just saw your message. My country of origin doesn't allow gender change without SRS (or any surgery on sex organs). I successfully changed my first name and gender in the Netherlands in 2023.

Somehow, nobody asked me for my parents' marriage certificate, but my birth certificate was an issue. I just don't have it. I was born outside of my country of origin (the country, which nationality I also have). Traveling to my country of origin or to my birth country is not possible. Both countries are RED on all Western travel maps. My lawyer proved it in the court. The court lasted 9 months. Everything was changed without the original birth certificate. The court made a replacement of the birth certificate, and my data was automatically altered in BRP. I got a fresh ID card. I paid only around 500 euros for the lawyer, because the rest is paid by the state, if you're not rich enough.

It must be really tricky with your last name, but nothing is impossible.